Call me bitter for unfriending and/or blocking past love interests, but I have a few reasons why this is beneficial for me.
First and foremost, it removes a stressor in my life. When getting over someone, the worse thing a person or a thing could do to me is to constantly remind me of him. This is very difficult because during these times it is when everything, as in EVERYTHING can be associated to that person I wanted to move on from. Like, “That car was red and red was the color of his shirt when I first met him” or “Oh! that new Justin Bieber song was playing when we were doing a tonsil hockey to each other”. So I believe that it would really help if I could get rid of his new posts from my social media feed so that I would not be reminded of him again.
I don’t know about you guys but when I get reminded of the person constantly, I tend to have relapse feelings and feelings of wanting to go back to him. So I would cut all ties from the person for me not to have an avenue for connection with the person. I would always hate myself when I consciously refrain from messaging him then I will reach a point that I cannot control myself and message him again, only to realize the reason why I wanted not to message him in the first place, and that is unresponsiveness. I don’t like people that just seen-zone my messages and doesn’t even have the balls to tell it to my face that they are not interested.
And last, when a girl says she’s done SHE IS DONE. Blocking him is a way of saying that she can most definitely live without you. That it is not her loss, it is his. So don’t be afraid to show them that you are strong and independent woman and that you don’t need anybody else to be complete and happy and survive life.
(L-R) Feliss Sanchez, Prof. Efrelyn Iellamo and Me
I have been complimented on my slightly reduced figure for quite some time now. I don’t know if it is because of my new habits or if it is just because of stress but it made me look thinner as told by couple of people I met after quite a long time.
One instance is when I went to a Seven-Eleven store in Mall of Asia. I’m really close to 711 employees since my mom is an operations field consultant at 711 and she was there for more than 20 years now. But anyway, the story goes like this.
When I went inside the backroom door, an employee who I did not know she have known me before made a comment by saying “Ma’am Pam (mom), siya na ba si Laire? Parang may nagbago sa kanya” and then my mother said “Haha, diretsyahin mo na. Hindi ka ba sanay na ganyan siya kapayat?”
Let’s get this straight, I am still overweight. I know it was not a drastic weight loss experience but I looked thinner, better and I’m really happy with that. I’m not really bragging but it is uplifting celebrating little progress like this. The picture on the left was last May 2015 with my best friend Myka and the picture on the right is a very recent picture this October 2016 with my Psychiatric Nursing Professor Ma’am Mejico. I have consciously started this regimen last August 2016 when school started again.
I have tried drinking normal tea and senna pod tea which will make you flush everything you have eaten the day before down the drain the next morning but I have this impression that it is not good for my gastrointestinal tract. I just can’t stand if being so painful every morning
So if you’re curious of what I have changed since last August, I guess. I just followed these simple rules and these rules could help you start your journey into weight loss:
- Cut down on carbonated drinksI really liked carbonated drinks. I guess it became somewhat addicted to it because it actually contains chemicals with endorphin. Kaya pala share the happiness ang tagline ng Coca-cola. But yeah I tried to cut down my soda intake until eventually I forgot the taste of soda. It was really hard at first because all of the fast food chains would offer a free soft drink with their meal and it would cost you so much if you change the drink into Iced Tea or Pineapple (which I think is not more healthy than soda because I know it has a lot of sugar in it too). So the best solution is to just ask for water at these fast food chains and not drink the soda drink that comes with it. Think of it as preventing weight gain as well as saving money because it would cost you less if you just drink water and not upgrade your drink.
- Drink a lot of water
You should know how to love water. One trick I do is that whenever I crave for soda or carbonated drink, I tell myself to drink a glass of water first. If I still crave it, I could drink a soda. Water is really good for you. It will make your skin better and you will lose weight because a skinny person has more water content in their body than a fat person because fat is hydrophobic so it does not mix with water. Therefore, increasing water intake would help lose fat content in the body.
- Cut down on fast food
I don’t really have fast food when I am in the house because mommy and Ate Ding would always cook for our meals but it is really difficult when I’m in school. What I do is that I eat at carinderia which is really better than fast food because it’s cheaper and it is home cooked food. Of course, at this point I can’t totally erradicate fast food in my system specially because I’m here in Manila and fast food chains are present everywhere. I just make sure that I am taking more home cooked food than the fast food ones.
- No meals after 6PM
I try to eat dinner at 5PM everyday so that I would not have any meals after 6PM. Like what my professor said when I was in my first year of nursing school, you should eat breakfast like a Queen, eat lunch like a princess and eat dinner like a pauper. Energy comes from food and when you eat mood in the evening, you would not use those energy anymore because you’re gonna sleep at night. So unused energy will convert into fats… and we don’t want that.
- Cut down on drinking alcoholic drinks
Believe it or not, I don’t drink that much anymore. Lately, I have been very busy with school and I would only join parties on VERY special occasions. I realized that IT IS OKAY to say NO to a drinking session. Well, there’s nothing wrong with drinking. It is a form of de-stressing and socializing. But just like almost anything, too much of one thing is unhealthy already. The key is moderation.
So that’s that, the five diet modification I started doing and I think you should too. It has been 3 months and I could already see changes in my body. Not only me but other people that sees me on a regular basis as well. So, let’s start prioritizing our health and wellness before it becomes too late.
So my dazzling auntie Leah sent me a few thing over the mail and yes indeed I’m wonderstruck.
The first and the most important one is this Wonderstruck Vaporisateur which is just a fancy word for perfume. This is a Taylor Swift scent and if you guys really know me I am obsessed with Taylor and you can’t imagine how happy I am when I saw this as I open the mail.
It has these cute charms on the top. I don’t know what it symbolizes but they’re cute. It’s a star, a bird and a cage. Maybe it’s related to Tay’s Enchanted song if we want to get deeper into its meaning.
Regarding about the scent, it does not have a strong scent to it. It’s very mid and it would fit a preppy, sweet and kikay look.
Next is this perfect lipstick and lipgloss combo from Clinique.
This is 07 Sugar Plum Pop from Clinique. It matches my natural lip color. Can I say this is the cutest lipstick ever?
And this is the long last gloss wear in the shade of 23 First Date (What…is my Tita implying something? Just kidding)
And I tried both products. Honestly I’m more of a lipstick than a lipgloss girl because I’m used to using bold and dark colors but most of the people I look prettier when I use subtle and light colors. It’s just a justification that I CAN be Sara and Kara from Doble Kara 🙂
Yup, that’s the look on my face whenever I am asked that question.
Then after a few moments I did search my head of the possible reasons why I am single. The results are as follows:
- Hindi pa pwede – I was raised in a very traditional family and for them you can’t have any ideation of having a love life unless you have finished college. My mother once told me “Kunwari graduation mo ngayon, kahit bukas na bukas pwede ka nang magpakasal” Ay grabe mother, ano para sabay na handaan? Haha. Pero kidding aside, I know how my family values my education and my future that is why I understand why they are doing this. They also have pointed out that I should focus on my career first and relationships will inevitable come my way once a good life has been established.
- I’m an alpha female – I have this dominant image and I guess boys are easily scared of women who has more balls than them. But sorry to tell you but I have no intentions of being submissive just to please anyone. I think the right one will come my way and that person will be able to tolerate all my quirks and stubbornness. He does not have to be perfect but he has to be compatible with me.
- I’m stubborn with my standards – I’m more of a reacher than a settler I think and that makes the hunt harder for me. People in my school always reminds us of not settling for mediocracy and I think I have adapted it into my everyday life as well as my love life. At this point of my life, I have increased my self awareness and I have resolved my self-esteem issues and in my mind I cannot be treated any less than what I deserve. As I have read online “When you have realized your worth, you would stop giving people discounts”
But at the end of the day, I realize why am I hassling myself trying to figure why I am single. I am 20 years young and I have my whole life ahead of me. I now realize that there’s no rush in finding a partner.
Being single does not mean nobody likes you. Maybe people have not realized your beauty and worth yet, and that’s not your fault. Now is the perfect time to focus and improve myself. For the right person will come at the right time, at the right place if the circumstances are favorable.
So my answer to the question is:
“I am single because… why the hell not?” 🙂
Halloween is a celebration observed on October 31, the eve of the feast of All Hallows’ Day also known as All Saints’ Day. And what better way to celebrate an occasion than to have a party!
So last Monday, my family and friends were invited to a Children’s Halloween Party in the neighborhood.
The minute I received the invitation, I was thrilled because this was the first Halloween party I have ever participated in my entire life and I said to myself that I would make at least a small amount of effort to dress up for the occasion. Since I was really fond make-up, I took the chance and experimented on face paints.
I ended up with this look! It’s actually what I called “Only St. Peter touches my skin, who touches yours?” look for the Halloween. I was a two-faced bitch for that day (and maybe to the rest of eternity) with a skull face painting on the left-side of my face and a normal Laire look on the right. I guess, this is my take on my favorite actress and minsan ka-loka-like Julia Montes’ Doble Kara image. This make-up represents my personality really well because I believe I can shift from either one of these faces in an instant depending on who I am dealing with. It’s like what other people say “Mabait akong kaibigan pero masama akong kaaway” and as always I really believe that I am somewhat a mirror that only reflects what is shown to me.
I also did my best friend Myka‘s make-up which is also a half skull face but she was horizontally divided (?) which perfectly fits her because she is wearing glasses. I actually hate her because she made me shape her eyebrows AFTER I have done her make-up and that really sucks because it was really uncomfortable knowing I could ruin her look any moment. That sadako image in the middle of the last picture is my yaya. See, no make-up required but still very terrifying.
We were with my mommy, which also wanted to do the part and put an effort in her face. She used my Revlon lipstick which she always comment “Mukha kang mumu” whenever I wear it on a usual day. Also, I got to do a cat-eye for her which she also always notices whenever I wear a cat-eye on a normal day.
Chloe Jeanne dressed up as Snow White because my Tita Leah sent her a costume from Canada. It was really cool because her hair really fits the black hair for snow white. I just put white pressed powder which I bought in HBC that morning. She wore a red lipstick and kaboom, finally Chloe looks according to her usual mataray self.
In the end, the party would not be possible if it wasn’t for Ms. Ludy Abrantes. I really enjoyed the party and I’m already excited for next year’s Halloween party.
So I’m here editing this first ever blog post and I’m really excited that I am back to blogging again. My previous blogs in other blogging sites were not updated anymore and I want to have a more matured and professional looking blog so I decided to have a fresh start in the blogging scene.
Why “The Fabbette Chronicles” ?
Well, it’s obvious why it is Fabbette because of it’s significance of being MY NAME. I don’t usually use that given name of mine and up to this date I still can’t believe I was named Fabbette. But through the years, I’m learning to appreciate every part of myself including my name because let’s face it, it is a BIG PART of who you are.
Chronicles because I want to use this blog for personal and random matters so I would like it to be as a journal for whenever I want to share stories and thoughts in my head. According to literature, the first step in emotional first aid is to tell it to somebody. And blogging helps alleviate any feelings or thoughts bothering a person’s head because we are here not to impress but to express. Pent up feelings can put you into a higher risk of mental illness, I’m telling you.
So, let us be a company to each other in this wonderful journey called life.
It started when I entered a newly opened store in Robinson’s Place Manila named “Miniso” last Monday. I was browsing through their stuff, getting to know what the store has to offer. Then when I came into the phone accessories section of the store I saw a Bluetooth headset. It was a black over the head headset and as soon as I tried it on I fell in love with it. I said to myself, I need to have this.
Then when I was looking for the price of the thing because I badly want to buy this but I expect that it will not be cheap because duh it was awesome but I can’t seem to find it. It doesn’t even have other item like that on the shelves. Though I did not ask one personnel for the price. I just went out of the store. But judging from the specs, I guess it was around 2K – 3K pesos but I’m not sure.
So now I’m sitting in my desk trying to search for some bluetooth headphones in online shops when all I can see are items ranging from 600 – 900 pesos. Then I said to myself, “No, I can’t believe it. It can’t be. Either it’s fake or it will be easily broken. Ang ganda-ganda ‘non tapos ganon lang price? Hindi yan ganyan ka-mura”
I think I’m finally getting what most, if not all, of my friends are telling me. The thing with knowing your worth. See, I know that that kind of bluetooth headset should have high regards because it is phenomenal then seeing it priced so cheaply like that I believe is not expressing its real worth is totally unacceptable.
Same thing with self-concept.
If you know your worth, you wouldn’t accept others treating you any less. Kaya pala people who loves me very dearly often reminds me that I deserve better because they know my worth, and maybe I did not realize that before is because I was too blinded by how intensely I worshiped the person treating me awfully that I forgot about my worth.